October 2010

Without fail or exception my status is declared and that Tony is negative.

As we always practice safe sex in and out of the relationship there is rarely an issue with casual sex, but being open and honest from the outset avoids any misunderstandings.

So some good fun last month! No reason to let status get in the way of living your life fully.

I am a joint facilitator with THT in Brighton and this month has been a learning curve for me.

Everyone has a relevant and different story to tell in their journey, but most of the time we find that we all have one thing at least in common.

I often get reminded that the sharing of these mammoth journeys can be an eye opener and humbling at the very least.

As a long term survivor my own story is curious to some and to others well their stories maybe some thing they only know. Personally for me sharing is a good way to put personal situations into perspective.

I am sitting in my living room in front of a log fire which in some ways is inspirational but in others distracting as my mind wanders over the past and present.

Tony and I celebrated our 12th anniversary during the month.

For me it’s a warm feeling of being proud and privileged to have shared his love for so long and remain in my memory both the good times and the bad.

Something significant this month was the reaction of my dead partner’s mother to the anniversary of David’s death.

I have always wanted to remain in touch with his family which was one of his final wishes but this year I was shocked by the feelings of blame from his parents for the first time ever.

Perhaps for them it’s different after all he was their son.

I will feel somewhat at odds with their loss, yet I can understand that.

The loss for me was and is profound and life changing, even in my mature years I still feel deeply if I offend or hurt an individual in someway.

My health remains good and the month ahead is looking busy with radio interviews locally. Glyndebourne is my first stop next week. 

So more next month and be kind to yourselves guys and thanks for reading this and staying with me so far.

Richard

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