From the information you have given us about the sex you had, it seems unlikely HIV has got into your partners body.
What to do now
The risks you took means that your partner has a very low chance of having HIV.
Some sexual activities are more risky for passing on HIV than others. Using condoms for vaginal and anal sex can greatly reduce the risk from HIV. Oral sex is relatively low risk for HIV. However, the risk is increased if you get semen in your mouth. If you get the semen of a man with HIV in your mouth, there is a chance that HIV could be passed on.
If you took part in higher risk activities it might be worth taking PEP.
What is PEP?
When people have been put at risk of HIV there's a treatment called PEP that may prevent HIV infection after the virus has entered the body:
PEP stands for Post Exposure ProphylaxisIt involves taking anti-HIV drugs for four weeks
It must be started as soon as possible after unsafe sex or a condom not working – ideally within 24 hours but definitely within 72 hours (three days)
There can be side effects such as diarrhoea, nausea and prolonged headaches
PEP isn’t guaranteed to work.
PEP can be available from sexual health clinics and hospital accident and emergency departments .
PEP is not a cure for HIV and is not guaranteed to prevent HIV from taking hold once the virus has entered the body. Condoms and lube for sex remain the most efficient way of staying safe from HIV.
Also, if you have been at risk from HIV, there is a chance you may have picked up other infections as well. You can be checked for these confidentially at any sexual health clinic.
We're here for you
Remember, whatever happens we're here for you both. If you'd like help or support all you need to do is get in touch with THT Direct.