‘Growing up in the 60s I was too young for the sexual revolution. As to my identity, well, I just knew that I was different. I was a loner. I expressed my difference by creating my own dressing style. I didn't have a name for my bisexual feelings when I was a 70s teenager - and I had to fight hard to have bisexuality as a legitimate choice in the 80s. As to transgenderism: I probably first heard about trans women in the late 70s - I thought how amazing it was that surgeons could ‘change’ someone’s body to a different gender! In the 90s, on TV, I watched a person I’d known as lesbian go through transition to their true male identity. Change and understanding as regarding sexuality and gender choices and identities was happening by decades.
‘Perhaps not surprisingly, it took me more than 40 years to finally name my own gender identity: androgyne. Now I qualify as transgenderqueer and electively hermaphroditic - and, sometimes, reclaiming 'trolley tranny'. In my second-puberty 50s, I'm happily on low-level gel testosterone hrT (hormone replacement Testosterone) and I've had my choice of neutralising chest reconstructive surgery.
‘I get excited about computer databases that can handle my chosen title of ‘Mx’. I’m looking forward to the 2020s when folk might get their heads around pronouns like ‘per’ or ‘zie’ (or just ‘heshe’) and when ‘non-specific gender’ is a norm on forms. I’m grateful for disability access toilets and charity shop changing rooms as the only predictable unisex/anygendered private spaces in our society’s infrastructure to date; but, in the UK, I’m truly thankful to be able to walk around today being free to be myself and express myself, just the person I am.
‘As for my sexuality: now that I am acquainted with at least 100 trans people, I can clearly state that my feelings are pansexual! But I am electively asexual - intimacy doesn't have to be focused on genital contact. Now, I know too that my ‘loner’ self was also probably as much to do with being Aspergic (there’s a 20 per cent higher incidence of Asperger syndrome in trans people). I tend to get more excited about unsexualised objects and tactile materials; whatever floats your boat, as they say: just so long as it’s a sensually nice shape, colour and texture. I would consciously choose to only be in an intimate relationship with another trans or intersex person - but you never know who's 'waiting in the wings' of your life. We're all just another person behind our multiple identities and underneath our varied body bits and skin!’