Just because you are not medically transitioning does not mean that you don’t exist as a trans person, if that’s how you identify. You may find that there is little public understanding of non-binary identities in general, and some people may confuse non-binary gender identities with intersex conditions (this is where a baby is born with both male and female features).
If you choose to explain your identity to someone, even if they have some knowledge of non-binary identities or know non-binary people, you may need to explain exactly what being non-binary means to you. This could include:
- how you identify
- which pronouns you prefer
- which terms you use for your body
- whether any of these are constant or fluid.
It’s good to be able to discuss these matters openly with people. Not having to explain your gender identity or how you like it to be recognised is a binary privilege - you have just as much right to have your identity respected. It is helpful to communicate positives as well as correcting someone’s mistakes: thanking them for acknowledging a change of identity or a pronoun, or being a good ally.
In social and legal transition, there is unfortunately limited recognition of non-binary identities. However, an increasing number of institutions, particularly universities and colleges, are recognising non-binary identities - providing a third gender option or a ‘Mx’ option alongside ‘Mr’, ‘Miss’ and ‘Mrs’. A number of sexual health and wellbeing clinics for trans people, such as cliniQ and Clinic T, have been set up recently and these are very accommodating of non-binary people.