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Are you having a hard time? School should be a happy time but for many young gay men it can be very difficult. Check out these tips on how to cope if you are being bullied.

What is Bullying?

Bullying takes three main forms:

  • Physical – pushing, hitting, kicking and punching
  • Verbal – teasing and name calling
  • Indirect – exclusion, spreading rumours, texts or emails.

Bullying can happen anywhere and anytime to anyone. You may be being bullied and not even realise it. Whatever you do, don’t ignore it, your school or college will have an anti-bullying policy and although you may be scared to report it, if you don’t it will get worse.

Why do people bully?

Bullies don’t tend to have good friendships and often people are friends with bullies because they are too scared not to be.

Sometimes bullies bully to take attention away from themselves, maybe they are being bullied at home.

They may even bully to give themself a sense of power, or at least they think they have power, but in fact they are usually just manipulating people.

Tips and advice

People are often bullied for being LGBT. If this is happening to you, here are a few tips on how to deal with the situation.

  • It may sound impossible but try and ignore the bully. If you don’t react (which is what they want you to do) they will get bored and move on.
  • Stick with your friends, If you are in a group it won’t be as easy for the bully to single you out.
  • Be confident and rise above it. You haven’t done anything wrong. The bully is the one with the problem. If they have nothing better to do than spend all their time trying to make you feel bad, what kind of life have they got?
  • Tell someone that you are being bullied. Most people have been picked on at some point in their lives they may have good advice and be able to support you.

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