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Bisexual

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Bisexual is the word used to describe a person who is romantically and sexually attracted to both people of the opposite and of the same sex.

Being bisexual does not mean that you have to like both boys and girls equally, or that you have to go out with both.

How do you know if you're bisexual?

Some people may have always been attracted to both boys and girls, but for others it can be something that happens later on.

You may feel attracted to boys or girls at different times in your life.

Remember it is your sexuality and it's up to you how you define it.

In denial about being bi?

Some people think that people who describe themselves as bisexual are really gay but cannot admit this.

This is not true - you can be attracted to both boys and girls and being bisexual is not the same as being gay.

It is also not true that bisexual people are really straight but just experimenting.

Stereotypes about bisexuals

There are lots of stereotypes out there about being bisexual, but it is important to realise that you do not have to change who you are because of your sexual preference. After all, you are still you, whoever you are attracted to.

Some people think that if you are bisexual this means that you are promiscuous and are more likely to cheat on your partner. Neither of these things is true.

How many partners someone has and whether they are unfaithful or not depends on the individual, not their sexual orientation.

Dealing with prejudice

Unfortunately people who are bisexual do sometimes experience prejudice from others because they think it is not normal and that you should decide whether you fancy men or women. This is called homophobia, and it is important to know that people who think this are wrong.

More importantly, our society has systems in place to stop this sort of discrimination.

Being bisexual is completely normal and you have the right to be who you are and have relationships with whoever you like.

Meeting other bisexual people

Some people find joining a lesbian, gay, bisexual or trans (LGBT) youth group or society really helpful, especially when they do not know many other bisexual people, as it can give them the opportunity to meet like-minded people.

Growing up bisexual is not always easy and it can be very helpful to meet other people who understand any worries or difficulties you may be having.

Of course that does not mean that you can only have gay or bi friends, or that your straight friends won’t understand you.

LGBT groups for young people are run by qualified youth workers. These workers are happy to talk to parents too.

Support for LGBT youth:

If you want help and support around coming out, being bisexual, or anything else to do with your sexuality, check out some of these organizations.

If you want to talk to someone, in confidence, about your sexuality, you can call THT Direct on 0808 802 1221.

Check out our listings of LGBT youth groups around the country ››

Help and support:

FFLAG – Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays

LGBT Switchboard

PACE – promoting lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender health and wellbeing

The Gay Youth Corner

Gingerbeer – The Lesbian Guide around the UK

The LGBT Foundation

Queer Youth Network

Stonewall – advice and support for LGBT equality

 

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This article was last reviewed on 6/1/2016 by T. Kelaart

Date due for the next review: 6/1/2019

Content Author: Kerri Virani

Current Owner: Health Promotion

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